embracing the sandcastle paradox (or not)

Part of me really does understand that the awareness that Everything must someday come to an end changes the quality of my experience.

Knowing that anything could change at any time keeps me humble, attentive, and grateful, and reminds me not to take anything or anyone for granted.

And yet, I also notice that there's another part of me that just wants to close my eyes to this fact of life, and pretend that there is something solid, dependable, and trustworthy to lean on.

Unfortunately, I can't get away with that anymore.  The illusion of physical and emotional security has become so flimsy and transparent that I can't even pretend to rest in it.

prevention vs punishment as a litmus test of conscience

I'm doing some criminal justice research online tonight and just came across this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt:

When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?

and as always, because I just can't leave anything alone, I propose a small tweak:

We will know that our consciences have evolved in wisdom and tenderness when we prefer the prevention of suffering over the avenging of it. 

I wonder if I'll still be around when this evolution of conscience hits critical mass and becomes the prevalent sentiment in the collective consciousness of humanity.  It would be very interesting to witness ...  

we've come a long way, baby

I got choked up today seeing the pictures and reading the stories of couples in New York who were bursting at the seams with joy about being able to get married. Every once in a while a headline like that will send me into a reverie of appreciation for the dramatic changes I've seen in our culture in my lifetime.

So much of what was considered 'fringe' 20 years ago is now integrating into the mainstream. Back when I gave birth at home, it was seen as freakish and dangerous. I took plenty of heat during my vegan phase - tofu, soymilk, and veggie dogs were barely seen as food in mainstream culture back then. "How you gonna get any protein if you don't eat meat?"