You cannot restore someone to their Connection with Source by belittling them or by punishing them, or by being disgusted with them. It is only through love that you can return anyone to love. And if you do not have a way of returning them to love, they will always be a problem to your society. -abraham-hicks (see a new quote each day at www.abraham-quotes.com)
seems to apply nicely to parenting ... we can't shame or blame our kids into behaving better for long. they behave poorly when they are not feeling good about who they are or what they think they can contribute or accomplish. if we want better behavior, it's much more effective to look for ways that our kids are already making a positive contribution in some way, no matter how miniscule, and reinforce that by offering our attention to it. a kid who feels like what he does matters to someone is much more likely to cooperate.